1) I had a conversation with another counsellor the other day. We had never met or spoken before, but were discussing the possibility of doing some work together.
We got talking about something that we disagreed on – namely CSJT.
We’ve had very different experiences in life, and these have led us to different points of view about a controversial topic.
Being open involved taking a risk. But I realised soon after we talked that we weren’t all that far apart in our attitude. This was a pleasant surprise. By exploring our differences, I could see what we had in common. I also noticed that my own point of view had shifted slightly, through sharing my thoughts with her. That’s another benefit, for me.
The risk probably isn’t all that great in this case – our livelihoods aren’t at stake. It’s much harder to have these conversations at your place of work, for instance. But information could be used against me, and there is some risk to reputation I suppose.
I don’t know if the other person agrees with me that we have something in common in our attitude. I have emailed her, saying I found it a valuable conversation, but haven’t heard back.
Working together would have involved me travelling for several hours each way, and once I looked into this, it didn’t seem very appealing. I wonder if I’d have been more enthusiastic about the travelling, if we’d been more in agreement?
Anyway, I’m glad I had the conversation with her.
2) More generally, in our Zoom meeting, one of the suggestions in Val and Steve’s list was finding out what we are for, and not only what we’re against. Something in me has hope that conversations between people who disagree, although potentially risky, are also valuable. I know CSJT is all about power and all that, but maybe there’s an opportunity here.
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